I'll publicly admit that I was one of those women who subscribed to the school of "Size Counts". It wasn't a conscious decision per se, but my introduction to the male member was done in quite an impressive fashion that it was what I expected thereafter. I was fortunate that my subsequent introductions (save for one) to other members of the "Well Endowed" club kept me thinking that was important and I even had a way of gauging how big a man was without even seeing it. Sorry, I will not publicly disclose a trade secret.
Anyway, up until recently, I still held my membership to the previously mentioned "club" and seemed content with it. Well, that was until I got involved with my current and he firmly announced that while he's not as endowed as my previous boyfriends, he has what he has and can/will work with what he's got. And let me tell you, he has over and over again. Ladies, this man has come close to having his neighbours know my name and I've not only chased the rainbow, but experienced the many colours therein, and ate the Skittles at the end. I've done and enjoyed things I used to say I wouldn't and he's left me sore more often that not. Is it ever great to have open the door to change/growth/new experiences.
Being with him is nothing short of an A because the foreplay starts outside of the bedroom with compliments, flirting, the kiss or touch at just the right/unexpected time, and when it reaches the bedroom, it's anyone's guess how it's going down. We've scared ourselves on how involved we've gotten and how his performance has left me shook. So suffice it to say that I've not renewed and am not sure that I would want to my membership to the "Well Endowed" club. My sweetie has hit home runs, won pennants, and taken the championship with what the good Lord has blessed him with and I'm glad I'm over my once shallow; though unintentional mindset.
A reformed woman!
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01 November 2010
16 August 2010
Ten Things I like About Sex
- The kiss that takes my breath way
- The many configurations we form
- The shared trust
- The weakness/strength
- Giving in and letting go
- Unified bliss
- Being sexually intoxicated
- It being a journey of exploration
- Knowing I can f*ck, make love, have sex all with the same person
- Simply because it feels so damn good
Stay blessed
15 August 2010
Check Please!
The more I date/get to know someone, the more reasons I've found to confirm why I'm still single.
Last weekend; and at the same event I met Stalker at, I met Special Dark. He did everything he could to gain my attention and flirted shamelessly when he did. We engaged in a really great conversation where a good vibe developed and he asked if we could exchange numbers. I didn't take his and instead gave him mine stating that if he truly had an interest he'd do the leg work. In spite of my being independent, assertive, and all that good stuff; I still like to be courted.
That evening, I went to the party with where I knew he would be and upon seeing me, he became my date for the night. We drank, talked, danced, and had a genuinely good time. When it was time for me to go, he walked me to my car, hugged me and said he'd be in touch. He knew I had plans with my family the next day, but still sent a text to say it was a pleasure meeting me, inquired about my family whom he'd met at the picnic and party, and wished me a good day with them.
The next day, we speak via text, but I wanted there to be some actual human contact, so I said, I would refrain from texting and he should call when he had an opportunity to do so. A short while later, he called and we spoke for an hour or so. The conversation was energetic and warm like our previous and he quickly took me out of the tired funk I was in to sparking the proverbial second wind. I had to go out that evening, but said I would call or text when I was done.
The following day, he asked what was on my agenda and if there was an opportunity for him to visit me (he lives in NY). I ran through my itinerary and said that the evening would be good. Let the record show that I do not make a habit of letting people come to my home and I was in fact breaking my own self-imposed rule since I knew I'd have Lil Lady and my surrogate kids at the house, so I wouldn't be there alone with someone I'd just met.
Upon his arrival; he was reintroduced to Lil Lady and Surrogate Daughter as he'd met them on Saturday and he was also introduced to Lil Lady's Twin; also a surrogate daughter and Lil Lady's male bestie. We sat and chatted for a while before he was afforded the tour of my house. While upstairs, he kissed me, which I returned until he got a little touchy feely. I promptly ended the tour upstairs and hustled him back downstairs and outside to the vast back yard until I was ready to bring him back inside.
Fast forward to the kids going upstairs leaving he and I alone...He kisses me again and this time with more vigor than the previous. I pulled away feeling a bit overwhelmed, but it didn't thwart his attempts to get touchy-feely again. I backhanded him citing his advances were too forward and uncalled for. He backed off, but now I was feeling a bit put off and said it was getting late and he had a 90 minute drive ahead of him. He left and I was both pissed off and relieved. We had standing plans, which we'd made on Monday to meet on Friday; prior to his wanting to see me on Tuesday, but I was no longer feeling like I wanted to go through with them as he'd rubbed me (literally) the wrong way. Friday rolls around and I hadn't heard from him all day. I called and left a message inquiring if we were still a go and waited for his response. Bottom line was that I was going anyway as I'd already made the plans, but being one for social protocol, I made contact in spite of myself. Hours later he said he was sorry, but had been caught up on some business and would get back to me. I responded, stating it was cool either way as I was proceeding as planned.
Later said evening, he text inquiring as to my whereabouts and I stated I was with my friend and it was cool that he couldn't make it. (Read, was RELIEVED). I think I might have truly lost it if I had to ward off his octopus-like advances.
The point of this convoluted story is that this is a clear example of someone showing you who they are and having the presence of mind to pay attention. I saw very quickly that Special Dark is hands on - literally in spite of not once being given the green light. His lack of contact post visit shows me what his intentions really where regardless of how he presented himself. And finally, his lack of contact since bailing on Friday. In truth, I'm not pressed and will chalk it up to The Adventures and Misadventures of a Single/Dating Woman. I had a good night regardless with a very dear/special friend, so here's to you Special Dark....Check please!!!!
Stay blessed!
Last weekend; and at the same event I met Stalker at, I met Special Dark. He did everything he could to gain my attention and flirted shamelessly when he did. We engaged in a really great conversation where a good vibe developed and he asked if we could exchange numbers. I didn't take his and instead gave him mine stating that if he truly had an interest he'd do the leg work. In spite of my being independent, assertive, and all that good stuff; I still like to be courted.
That evening, I went to the party with where I knew he would be and upon seeing me, he became my date for the night. We drank, talked, danced, and had a genuinely good time. When it was time for me to go, he walked me to my car, hugged me and said he'd be in touch. He knew I had plans with my family the next day, but still sent a text to say it was a pleasure meeting me, inquired about my family whom he'd met at the picnic and party, and wished me a good day with them.
The next day, we speak via text, but I wanted there to be some actual human contact, so I said, I would refrain from texting and he should call when he had an opportunity to do so. A short while later, he called and we spoke for an hour or so. The conversation was energetic and warm like our previous and he quickly took me out of the tired funk I was in to sparking the proverbial second wind. I had to go out that evening, but said I would call or text when I was done.
The following day, he asked what was on my agenda and if there was an opportunity for him to visit me (he lives in NY). I ran through my itinerary and said that the evening would be good. Let the record show that I do not make a habit of letting people come to my home and I was in fact breaking my own self-imposed rule since I knew I'd have Lil Lady and my surrogate kids at the house, so I wouldn't be there alone with someone I'd just met.
Upon his arrival; he was reintroduced to Lil Lady and Surrogate Daughter as he'd met them on Saturday and he was also introduced to Lil Lady's Twin; also a surrogate daughter and Lil Lady's male bestie. We sat and chatted for a while before he was afforded the tour of my house. While upstairs, he kissed me, which I returned until he got a little touchy feely. I promptly ended the tour upstairs and hustled him back downstairs and outside to the vast back yard until I was ready to bring him back inside.
Fast forward to the kids going upstairs leaving he and I alone...He kisses me again and this time with more vigor than the previous. I pulled away feeling a bit overwhelmed, but it didn't thwart his attempts to get touchy-feely again. I backhanded him citing his advances were too forward and uncalled for. He backed off, but now I was feeling a bit put off and said it was getting late and he had a 90 minute drive ahead of him. He left and I was both pissed off and relieved. We had standing plans, which we'd made on Monday to meet on Friday; prior to his wanting to see me on Tuesday, but I was no longer feeling like I wanted to go through with them as he'd rubbed me (literally) the wrong way. Friday rolls around and I hadn't heard from him all day. I called and left a message inquiring if we were still a go and waited for his response. Bottom line was that I was going anyway as I'd already made the plans, but being one for social protocol, I made contact in spite of myself. Hours later he said he was sorry, but had been caught up on some business and would get back to me. I responded, stating it was cool either way as I was proceeding as planned.
Later said evening, he text inquiring as to my whereabouts and I stated I was with my friend and it was cool that he couldn't make it. (Read, was RELIEVED). I think I might have truly lost it if I had to ward off his octopus-like advances.
The point of this convoluted story is that this is a clear example of someone showing you who they are and having the presence of mind to pay attention. I saw very quickly that Special Dark is hands on - literally in spite of not once being given the green light. His lack of contact post visit shows me what his intentions really where regardless of how he presented himself. And finally, his lack of contact since bailing on Friday. In truth, I'm not pressed and will chalk it up to The Adventures and Misadventures of a Single/Dating Woman. I had a good night regardless with a very dear/special friend, so here's to you Special Dark....Check please!!!!
Stay blessed!
13 August 2010
From zero to sixty
Saturday past I was in Brooklyn at a fraternity; we'll call them huh phi really, cookout where I met a seemingly nice guy with whom I had a decent conversation with. In my mind the connection was purely cerebral, but somewhere between the exchange of contact information because as I said, it was cerebral; at least on my part, he slipped in that he wanted to fly me to California. Huh? In my mind I'm thinking, "how I we get here?" And I think my thoughts were heard or he saw the "huh?" expression in my face and he said, "Yea, that's how I roll." Wow! Okay!
Within two hours of the exchange of numbers, he, who'll from henceforth will be called Stalker called me. I didn't recognize the number, so I answered the phone only to hear him identify himself and I was stunned! I mean, who does that? I know I'm still fairly new to the dating scene and am still learning certain rules of engagement, but to call within two hours seems a little forward/pushy/even desperate to me. I abruptly got him off the phone citing I had my brother on the other line and I'd call later. Unfortunately my evenings events got the best of me and I didn't return the call. I did; however, send the Facebook Friend Request as he'd asked and no sooner he accepted the request, he posted "Hey Sexy". Now, I'm less than stunned, but instead tad pissed off. I mean, he hadn't asked my social status in terms of am I dating, in a relationship, or talking to someone, so for him to post that kind of comment was a bit offensive. Call me sensitive, but that's how I felt.
It's now Sunday, and we're going on a family outing to Six Flags. We arrived at the amusement park and I'd no sooner parked when my phone rang. I see it's Stalker and didn't answer the phone. It was not the appropriate time; nor did I want to answer only to promptly end the call. Stalker left a voice message and immediately thereafter sent a text message. Now, I'm heated! I mean was it really necessary to send a text after leaving a voice message? I went on with my day and hours later I replied to his text. I told him I was with my family at the amusement park and that I'd get back with him when I was in a more practical environment. He replied saying, "when you come see me in Cali, I'll take you to the Six Flag; Magic Mountain out here". So, we're back to that again. I replied, "money is wasted on me at amusement parks as I don't go on the majority of the rides, but it was a family day and I wanted to share time with them." That pretty much ended the conversation.
Monday morning rolls around and yes, he calls AGAIN! I answer as I don't want to be on the hook to call back. I really only had a few minutes, so that afforded me the chance to limit talking. He seemed overly impressed that I recognized his voice, but one would think that by now, I'd recognized his number and/or stored his number in my phone; nothing more. He once again rambled on about my going to Cali of which I gave no reaction to nor do I plan to. Hell, I don't even know this man; no he I. He babbled on about this and that and then I ended the call as I was on a time constraint and he stated he had to get to the airport.
Tuesday rolls around and I'm relaxing with Lil Lady and my surrogate kids when my phone rings; I didn't recognize the number and answered reluctantly. I was completely gobsmacked! Stalker called again; this time from a number I didn't recognize and when I inquired, he stated it was his landline and that I should store it in order to have all of his contact information. It was obvious he heard the commotion in the background and I was pleased that it afforded me the opportunity to get off the phone; not to mention that I had company anyway.
Now readers, I'm typically a very tolerant person, patient, and open minded person. I will allow one the benefit of the doubt, but I think Stalker has gone rather overboard in his effort get my attention of show his interest in me. Conversely, his persistence is having the opposing effect and now I feel compelled to let him know that 1) I have no romantic interest in him, 2) have no desire to engage in a long term relationship, and 3) I'm not attracted to him in an intimate manner. I'm not sure what my actual course of action in words will be, but I will definitely speak up because I do not want to allow there to be a false sense of attraction between us.
I feel like I'm on a speeding train that's about to crash into a wall. I'm still trying to figure out how I got from what was seemingly a cerebral draw to my being gifted a trip to the west coast. While I like to travel and am always up for a trip, I'm not inclined to visit someone I know nothing about and who's pursuing me like a virus. I do understand that there could be an opportunity for our getting to know each other more, which could justify his invitation, but the bottom line is that I'm simply not that into him; at least not romantically. Furthermore, my being pursued so aggressively is not a turn on for me. Yes, I like a strong man, but I don't like a brute or at least brute force tactics.
I have no idea where this story will go or what the end result will be, but for now, I'm just trying to make sense of nonsense and sharing it hoping to get some valuable insight. Oh, I have been instructed to simply ignore his calls and that he'll get the hint, but I did voluntarily exchange contact information and I do consider myself an adult, so ignoring him would be rather juvenile on my part. I'll keep you posted!
Stay blessed!
Within two hours of the exchange of numbers, he, who'll from henceforth will be called Stalker called me. I didn't recognize the number, so I answered the phone only to hear him identify himself and I was stunned! I mean, who does that? I know I'm still fairly new to the dating scene and am still learning certain rules of engagement, but to call within two hours seems a little forward/pushy/even desperate to me. I abruptly got him off the phone citing I had my brother on the other line and I'd call later. Unfortunately my evenings events got the best of me and I didn't return the call. I did; however, send the Facebook Friend Request as he'd asked and no sooner he accepted the request, he posted "Hey Sexy". Now, I'm less than stunned, but instead tad pissed off. I mean, he hadn't asked my social status in terms of am I dating, in a relationship, or talking to someone, so for him to post that kind of comment was a bit offensive. Call me sensitive, but that's how I felt.
It's now Sunday, and we're going on a family outing to Six Flags. We arrived at the amusement park and I'd no sooner parked when my phone rang. I see it's Stalker and didn't answer the phone. It was not the appropriate time; nor did I want to answer only to promptly end the call. Stalker left a voice message and immediately thereafter sent a text message. Now, I'm heated! I mean was it really necessary to send a text after leaving a voice message? I went on with my day and hours later I replied to his text. I told him I was with my family at the amusement park and that I'd get back with him when I was in a more practical environment. He replied saying, "when you come see me in Cali, I'll take you to the Six Flag; Magic Mountain out here". So, we're back to that again. I replied, "money is wasted on me at amusement parks as I don't go on the majority of the rides, but it was a family day and I wanted to share time with them." That pretty much ended the conversation.
Monday morning rolls around and yes, he calls AGAIN! I answer as I don't want to be on the hook to call back. I really only had a few minutes, so that afforded me the chance to limit talking. He seemed overly impressed that I recognized his voice, but one would think that by now, I'd recognized his number and/or stored his number in my phone; nothing more. He once again rambled on about my going to Cali of which I gave no reaction to nor do I plan to. Hell, I don't even know this man; no he I. He babbled on about this and that and then I ended the call as I was on a time constraint and he stated he had to get to the airport.
Tuesday rolls around and I'm relaxing with Lil Lady and my surrogate kids when my phone rings; I didn't recognize the number and answered reluctantly. I was completely gobsmacked! Stalker called again; this time from a number I didn't recognize and when I inquired, he stated it was his landline and that I should store it in order to have all of his contact information. It was obvious he heard the commotion in the background and I was pleased that it afforded me the opportunity to get off the phone; not to mention that I had company anyway.
Now readers, I'm typically a very tolerant person, patient, and open minded person. I will allow one the benefit of the doubt, but I think Stalker has gone rather overboard in his effort get my attention of show his interest in me. Conversely, his persistence is having the opposing effect and now I feel compelled to let him know that 1) I have no romantic interest in him, 2) have no desire to engage in a long term relationship, and 3) I'm not attracted to him in an intimate manner. I'm not sure what my actual course of action in words will be, but I will definitely speak up because I do not want to allow there to be a false sense of attraction between us.
I feel like I'm on a speeding train that's about to crash into a wall. I'm still trying to figure out how I got from what was seemingly a cerebral draw to my being gifted a trip to the west coast. While I like to travel and am always up for a trip, I'm not inclined to visit someone I know nothing about and who's pursuing me like a virus. I do understand that there could be an opportunity for our getting to know each other more, which could justify his invitation, but the bottom line is that I'm simply not that into him; at least not romantically. Furthermore, my being pursued so aggressively is not a turn on for me. Yes, I like a strong man, but I don't like a brute or at least brute force tactics.
I have no idea where this story will go or what the end result will be, but for now, I'm just trying to make sense of nonsense and sharing it hoping to get some valuable insight. Oh, I have been instructed to simply ignore his calls and that he'll get the hint, but I did voluntarily exchange contact information and I do consider myself an adult, so ignoring him would be rather juvenile on my part. I'll keep you posted!
Stay blessed!
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