We go through the good, bad, and indifferent in our lives for a reason. Obviously many of us don't know what the reason is at the time, but after you've gotten through it, given yourself time to think, and then seen it with new eyes, you can say, "Okay, now I get it" instead of the opening statement. Without our many and varied experiences, we wouldn't be who we are today. We wouldn't know how to love, to heal, to grow, or simply just be. While we want to erase the hurt, shield ourselves from the negatives, and live our respective utopia's; life simply doesn't go that way. God wrote a book for each of us and it's stated in the Bible, "Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart..." Jeremiah 1:5. God prepared our lives according to His will and it's preordained what will happen. No, God did not want to hurt any of us, but sometimes those hurtful/painful things are a part of His plan to carve us and mold us; and even for us to reach out to Him and call for his anointing in order for Him to bless, strengthen and keep us.
We can't blame God when negative things happen. Sometimes the intersection of our lives with another is what caused the situation to happen; especially when we ignore our gut and decide to do things our way. Trust me, I've lived this very lesson. The Shack by William P. Young speaks to this very matter and it's a book worth reading in order to understand love, loss, conflicted emotions, forgiveness and healing. This book put so much of what I know now into perspective and softened a hardened part of me. It gave me more clarity and showed me that bad things can happen for good reasons and it's not what happened to me that counts, it's what I did with what happened to me.
I think we all might be better served to accept the things we cannot change and to empower ourselves to accept and know what we know now as a blessing. We are all victors and not victims if we allow ourselves to be. Remember we can't undo the past and make it right and there are no do-overs, so we have to accept that what's done is done. Let us remove the rose coloured glasses and stand tall and say, "What I know now is..." as it ties into your life and life story. Be makers and doers of the world in order to make a difference. Be the change you're looking for and accept the man/woman in the mirror; trusting, knowing, and believing that you are somebody. Be defined for who you are now and not where/who you were.
Stand tall and say, "I'm (insert name) and I am proud of me and I what I know now is..."
Make your life count!